Looking For Mr. Right? 3 Ways To Guarantee You'll Find Him
By Michael Myerscough, Sat Dec 10th
Are you looking to find your Mr. Right? Your perfect partner? Aman that you'll love passionately, forever, and who'll love youback even more? Then there are 3 things you must know or must doin order to make sure you get him.
1. Get Clear on Who He Is
Let me ask you this. If you don't know... what kind ofpersonality he must have, what behavioural characteristics hemust possess, what he must value in life, the keys to how helooks in order to be s*xually attractive, what do you think yourchances are that you're going to find him? Poor? Very Slim? Worse than that?! If there's a key to success in anything (and let's face it youknow this already) it's getting clear on your goal. Sound's abit clinical when talking about future husband material, butit's a universal rule. If you don't know what your goal is inanything you do, you seriously damage your chances of getting it. And we're not talking about the `dark hair, over 6 foot,sensitive, listens to me, loves to go shopping' list. What we'retalking about here is identifying your most important emotionalneeds. The things that when they are met will make you feel`naturally' loved for ever by your partner. Also you must know the behavioural patterns that a man has toexhibit to make you feel loved, cared for and passionate. Andjust as importantly the ones that turn you off big time. Thingslike - the level of physical affection you require, whether ornot he buys you gifts regularly and maybe even the fact that helikes spending time with your family. You also need to know what you value in life in order to matchsufficiently at that level too. If you demand adventure in yourlife to stay excited then you don't want to be wasting valuabletime with a guy who, you eventually discover, gets his biggestkicks watching Saturday's match from the couch. Once you're very clear on your needs - emotional, behavioural,value-wise - then you massively multiply your chances of findingyour Mr. Right. In fact, if you combine this with the next 2steps, I challenge you not to find him in 12 months! So the nextmust is... 2. Get Clear on Who You Need To Be Don't worry! We're not talking personality makeover here. Most of the time, what my clients need is some additionalinformation, some insight, some ways of dealing with men toallow them to make the most of their own potential. Why? Because sometimes there's something stopping you attracting theright type of man. What commonly stops my clients? Their self-esteem. They makethemselves unavailable to men. Not maximising their body image.Not being able to flirt and attract
enough men. Not being ableto hold on to men. The list goes on. Now don't get depressed. I'm sure not all of these apply to you!However, there's something that right now is preventing you fromfinding your man. Some piece of your behaviour that is blockingyou. And you absolutely must find out what it is. More of thatlater... 3. Date Relentlessly The last must: You know who you want. You know what you need to do to attracthim. The only thing left is to date relentlessly. Because datingis definitely a numbers game. You need to be going on a minimum of 2 dates a week. Preferablymore. If that sounds impossible/horrendous/not worth it, let meexplain. There are 3 keys to allow you to do this. a)Multiple dating 'Going out' with more than one man at a time. No - it's notimmoral. You just need to be very clear about what is and whatisn't acceptable for you and your potential dates. You mustshare that with your partners at just the right time. And youmustn't overstep your boundaries. Seriously, I've made thatmistake, in the name of science, and it gets really messy, veryquickly :-). b)Modern dating resources Pubs and clubs are very poor places to meet available men. Tomeet the numbers of men you need to, you must take advantage ofsome more modern dating methods - online dating, speed dating,singles parties, etc. Not only must you use them, but you mustknow how to get the number of dates out of them that you want. c)Lots of dates, very few relationships A date is not a night out. A date can be, and most of the timewill be, a 20 minute 'coffee break' meeting. This allows you tofit in lots of dates and get to know whether there's anychemistry between the two of you. Your first date is almostalways going to be going for a quick drink. That's it. 3 must do steps. Know who you're after. Know what youneed to do or be to find him. Date relentlessly (in the rightway). So what's stopping you? Not sure where to start? Subscribe to a free `How toFind Mr. Right' course. Define your perfect partner, findout how to attract him and how to get the dates you need. Visithttp://www.HowToFindMrRight.com and sign up to thefree e-course now. About the author:Michael Myerscough is a 16 year veteran of counselling andcoaching people to have great relationships. He is the author of`Finding Mr. Right', a book that guarantees you'll find your manwithin 2-18 months. Copyright 2005 The Relationship Gym. All Rights Reserved. May befreely copied and distributed as long as you include thefollowing information: "By Michael Myerscough, professionalspeaker and relationship success coach. Michae |
